Commentary for Bava Batra 288:13

מי לא תניא מקום שנהגו להחזיר קדושין מחזירין מקום שנהגו שלא להחזיר אין מחזירין ואמר רב יוסף בר אבא אמר מר עוקבא אמר שמואל לא שנו אלא שמתה היא אבל מת הוא אין מחזירין מ"ט יכולה היא שתאמר

must repay;<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' To the heirs of him who presented him with the gifts. ');">⁴⁶</span> [why could] he [not] say. 'Give me my <i>shoshbin</i> and I will rejoice with him'?<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' He should only be expected to reciprocate, i.e., to act as best man for his friend as the latter had acted for him, but not to send presents to heirs who have no claims on him. ');">⁴⁷</span> Has it not been taught. 'Where it is the custom to return<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' In the case where the bride died before the marriage took place (as explained infra). ');">⁴⁸</span> the [token of] betrothal<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' The token of betrothal, consisting of money or any object of value, which the man gives to the woman at betrothal, whereby the union was legalised. ');">⁴⁹</span> it [must] be returned, [and] where the custom is not to return. it [need] not [be] returned'; and R. Joseph b. Abba said in the name of Mar 'Ukba in the name of Samuel, 'This applies only to the case<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' Lit., 'they did not teach but'. ');">⁵⁰</span> where she died but [where] he died it [need] not [be] returned. What is the reason? Because she can say:

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